I came across a Facebook post where families and friends were celebrating the anniversary of a gay couple who had gotten married several years ago. As I stopped and thought about celebrating them or not, I couldn’t get myself to. How could I celebrate? What will become of them? There is an afterlife that is eternal and all I could think of was, will they be there? I can’t celebrate knowing they don’t want to live by the faith, and they think what God has taught us is false. We will all pass by purgatory, but they deliberately choose to go against God’s teaching and impose these falsehoods on others.
Having homosexual inclination is not immoral. It is homosexual acts that are immoral. Such individuals are called to fulfill God’s will in their lives and, if they are Christians, to unite to the sacrifice of the Lord’s Cross the difficulties they may encounter from their condition (CCC, no. 2358).
Not acting on desire, immediate gratification, doing whatever one wants, living by the flesh and not the spirit, is a tough pill to swallow for the mainstream way of thinking. We see Pride messages everywhere these days, on clothing, commercials, and department stores. We see homosexual relationships in kids tv shows and in parades. The traditional family is even frowned upon. I saw a kids tv show where one character had a very stable home and was happy while the friend had a dysfunctional home. Guess who had the problem-ridden home? The home with a mother, father and child. The stable home was a gay couple and their adopted child.
Homosexuality nowadays is one of the strongest examples we have against choosing spirit vs. flesh. If only the LGBTQ community were teaching on how to fight the desires of flesh, and to choose spirit and God, what a different world we would live in. But they won’t advance Christian values, and neither will the media. So, it’s up to us Christians committed to Christ to teach, starting with the kids, what is natural law and why gay marriage is not acceptable.
The Catholic church has many communities and groups for gays and lesbians to find support in one another, in prayer; discovering how being attracted to the same sex can help them grow in their relationship with God. These groups teach gays and lesbians that authentic chaste love make them stronger, recognizing that love is so much more than physical; patience, learning, respecting the self, God, the body, practicing self-restraint, all of which brings a person closer to God. Let’s strengthen the traditional family and lets defend it. Let’s also promote the value of chastity.
“God wills you all to be holy. He wants you to keep away from sexual immorality, and each one of you to know how to control his body in a way that is holy and honourable, not giving way to selfish lust like the nations who do not acknowledge God. (1 Thessalonians 4:3-5, New Jerusalem Bible)
Lara Paniagua is a Nicaraguan-American. She completed her studies in Psychology at Carleton University and her graduate research with the Universidad de Leon in Spain. She works in Miami as an education consultant child psychologist. Lara is a practising Roman Catholic actively engaged in her Miami parish.
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